heres the thing

i'm the type of person who doesnt like to take sides. Im talking about arguments and debates between people close to me. Friends, family... The reason i dont like taking sides is that we all have flaws, we all have strenghts and we all make mistakes. Anger usually comes from hurt. When we hurt other people, its often a way of dealing with pain. Often people who make mistakes, and do things they later regret, do them because they are not strong enough to make the right decisions. Sure there are people who intentionally do bad things to purposfully hurt someone else, but chances are that they themselves are feeling some emotional void or pain that causes them to do this. So, instead of punishing people over and over again, the best thing to do is offer them support. Understand that we are all delicate, we are all vulnerable at times, and we ALL make mistakes. So this is why i usually try my best to see the other persons point of view. If we were all a little more patient, understanding, supportive of  others rather than pushing them away and punishing them, we would save ourselves and others alot more energy, frustration and hurt. Be more understanding of others and you will build stronger relationships that are more supportive, positive and loving.